ACES is not well supported by many RAW processors.
You mentioned Affinity Photo earlier. Have you tried it? If I remember correctly Affinity's raw development uses libraw, which has had good support for ACES for quite awhile. I know Affinity also has good support for ACES in general via OCIO so that shouldn't be an issue either. For development from camera raw to aces (stored as exrs) we use OpenImageIO, which also uses libraw, and it works well. As long as they expose the appropriate settings, I think any of the other front ends that rely on libraw to do the heavy lifting should also work fine.
With regard to ICC profiles, I presume that was in reference to ProPhoto not ACES?
The good thing about using Metashape and a scene linear ACES based workflow is that even though the display transform inside of Metashape isn't quite right and your images will look a little funny inside the application the underlying pixel values aren't modified. If your source images are in the correct colorspace the resulting texture maps will be generated correctly in the same color space and will render properly once you move them to an application that is color managed. In other words, the fact that Metashape doesn't attempt to do ad-hoc color management (like some other applications do) makes it work well inside of a color-managed pipeline.
If I had one feature request to make in this vein it would actually be for Metashape to adopt OpenImageIO and OpenColorIO for image handling and color management. I imagine that could require a significant development effort depending on how the existing code is structured, but it would provide a number of benefits to users including support for non-RGB images like you're asking for, additional image formats including RAW for many cameras, color management, and the ability for users to do pretty sophisticated image math and compositing within the application.