I've always found using the shortest focal length available is the best way to ensure loads of overlap and a reliable photo alignment, even using an 10mm ultrawide lens (
http://www.agisoft.com/forum/index.php?topic=2458.msg13053#msg13053). We do almost exclusively architectural stuff where we are generally forced closer than we would like to be due to either tight internal spaces, or foliage/property boundaries etc on the exterior.
The people doing face and body scanning seem to go for longer focal lengths, like 35-50mm presumably because the cameras need to be further back to allow the subject to actually get in to the scanning area, whilst still getting high resolution. I 'think' the people doing 'traditional' aerial photogrammetry also use longer focal lengths, presumably to do with the altitude they fly at, but i haven't looked much into that.
All things being equal, then perhaps a more 'normal' focal length like 30-50mm would improve reconstruction quality, but if you can't get far back then, as you suggest, you may end up taking way more photos than you want to have to deal with to get the required amount of overlap.
Unless the building is brand new, extremely well maintained or a bit shiny, then you rarely have to worry about the images looking too similar or being confusing. So long as your images are sharp, then photoscan will invariably do a surprisingly good job of differentiating between things that otherwise look identical.
The timing gap is not necessarily critical. Photoscan will match features between images taken in completely different lighting situations very robustly, but if the difference is too great it may have a negative impact on your final texture or orthophoto output. You can use a white balance grey card to try and maintain consistent exposure and colour if you are shooting over a long period of time, or make corrections in photoshop/lightroom etc afterwards, easier if you shoot raw files instead of just jpg. The biggest problem i find is when shooting in natural light on a breezy and partially cloudy day and half of the photos are in warm (reddish) direct sun, and half are in cold (blueish) shade. Plus even if you get the colours to match, half of the photos have shadows and half don't and you just want to go home.
The problem you are having opening the psz file may be because i created it in the beta pre-release version 1.1, which you can download here:
http://www.agisoft.com/forum/index.php?topic=2883.0Or you can try this file, saved down to 1.0.0 format:
https://www.dropbox.com/s/a4kypbvim98fzbn/house1.0.psz?dl=0If you want to read up on camera terminology and techniques etc, i.e. white balance, focal length, aperture etc then this is the best resource i have found so far, in terms of starting right at the beginning and going pretty advanced:
http://www.cambridgeincolour.com/tutorials.htm